It's Simple...

Put up or shut up..! We hear people complain every day about stupid crap they did to themselves. People do not stand up in situations they should be defending. People stop demanding respect and just walk away to avoid confrontation. People even act nice and sweet to get what they want without fighting with someone over it. This would be all fine and dandy if karma didn’t bite them in the butt. You get what you dish out and if you really want to back down, get disrespected, avoid confrontation, or act two-faced, then ..sorry.. you’re going to have to suffer the consequences later.. Stop the complaining that someone walked all over you! Stop wining about being overlooked and ignored! Stop crying when someone figured you out and is no longer taking your bull! If you want to get anything you deserve, you need to hold your ground, have morals and values and stick to your guns..Therefore: PUT UP OR SHUT UP!!

Stepping Stones

Obstacles we reach..

Truimphs we achieve..

The people in and out of our Lives..

The weaknesses we discover..

The strengths we develop..

The knowledge aqcuired from lessons learned..

The constant reflection...

The endless hard work...

All efforts we make..

Only Stepping Stones...

we can't stand still

No one wants to be alone. No one wants to fail at anything. No one plans on feeling lonely and emotionally drained. Yet at some time within our lives we have an abundance of feelings that we would rather not deal with. We crowd ourselves with busy schedules, seclude our personal lives from friends and pretend nothing is bothering us just so we can get through another day. As the pain of loneliness builds we are left with a decision, to fight back and move forward or remain alone and secluded. Finally after moments of sad feelings we regard an new found perspective and a sigh of relief. We develop an independence like no other where no matter how we look at it there is still a positive. Although it appears we have lost something we have truly only gained an even better self. We learn to find peace, a bit of patience, and understanding. The things in life that seem devasting are often only a little bump in the road. When one trail ends on our journey, we discover a new and even more exciting path to follow. We explore a different aspect, stop and reflect and grow. For every end creates a beginning to something else...

Believing in ... exactly what?

Have you ever felt so strongly about something that you TRULY believed it would all work out? Or that it must have been meant be? So much so that you practically just can not let it all disappear. What exactly is it that pulls you into this crazy idea that you have to continue believing or else? People turn one emotion into another and expect to find answers. Understandably no one wants to give up when you put so much time and energy into something, anything. But time is absolutley the best test. If nothing has changed, moved forward or even showed real signs of hope and improvement then it's at that point you must walk away and say farwell. Take all the energy and turn it into a positive experience by applying it elsewhere. Find the passions and desires in other areas of life that can better you and allow growth on all levels. Realize that not everything is as it seems and nothing is ever so perfect. Once you come to the conclusion that you are able to end it with or without the pain of failure or disappointment a giant weight is lifted and you begin to feel free.

Patience is a Virtue

I was told today by a very old and dear friend that I am way too patient. We have been friends now for over 25 years, so she knows me quite well. I guess I never really thought of it as patience but rather as tolerant and understanding. The discussion was based on people taking advantage and not making decisions when it comes to relationships. We laughed at the whole "S**t or get off the pot" theory and realized it was true. I am naive I suppose and to allowing of those to walk all over me and the way I feel. But it's hard to lay down the law when you are so wrapped up in the situation you see no way around. The obvious answer is to severe ties and move on, but that is easier said than done. The hold is there and I feel stuck. I can see a solution and believe it's a positive decision, but the heart closes that out whenever possible. Sometimes I feel so stupid, like what the heck is wrong with me?? The answer is right at the tip of my nose yet I keep punishing myself. I did however get an inspiration at some point, but that seems very distant in the past now. How does one forget and move forward when there is some connection holding you in place?? Can I just shut the door and really feel relieved? I think I am just scared to lose a possibility of anything rather than find my way to the surface?? Crazy life and definitely in need of repair!

When Silence is Louder than Words

People can talk and talk all they want. When we have decided to stop listening we either tune them out or simply walk away. Arguements get you absolutely nowhere because nothing is actually heard. Then there are the moments when no communication causes deeper rooted feelings than just being mad. People ignore even speaking to avoid the conflict of what someone has to say. Silence turns into a deafening cry of reality. Not hearing a sound, no conversation to explain the problems leaves you wondering why it's so easy to pretend those issues don't exist. Not talking anymore doesn't magically correct a situation, it just creates the deepest rooted problems followed by extreme reactions later. We internalize the lack of communication as someone not caring about our feelings or trying to be hurtful. The bad part ends up when in reality people stop talking all together because of stubborn personalities and selfish behavior. Is it really worth ending friendships because we can not forgive and forget and start over?